Eileen & Tiffany
Dear birth parent,
This is an awkward letter to write; it is hard for us to imagine who you are, just as it must be difficult for you to imagine us. We write this with the hope of sharing some of our story. If you so choose, we would love to learn more about you, in as much as you would like to share, and answer any questions you might have.
Tiffany is from the USA (Minneapolis), Eileen grew up in Norway, and Theo was born right here in Vancouver. To our incredible joy, Theo’s birth mum decided that we were to be his parents (we have an open adoption). We are a family brought to together by a great deal of love, luck, and international migration.
We have been a couple since 2004. We met when we were both graduate students in the USA and got to know each other over study dates at coffee shops and the occasional (sometimes terrible) film at the discount movie theatre. When we married in 2007, it was with the intention to start a family.
We moved to Canada in 2008, first to Alberta and then, in 2012, to Vancouver. Both moves were precipitated by Tiffany’s work in different universities. Eileen was a translator for many years, but she recently finished law school and is now starting out as a lawyer working in the social justice field.
During the week, we all go to work – Tiffany to teach, Eileen to the office, and Theo to learn through play in daycare. But we all come home for dinner – the mums take turns either cooking or playing with Theo, and after dinner we all do an activity together (often books or trains) before Theo goes to bed. On weekends, we have downtime at home, spend time with friends and family, and go on excursions in our local community. We also participate in activities in a faith and cultural community related to Theo’s birth heritage. Once a year or so we’ll go on a bigger trip, usually to see family in Europe.
As parents, we take pleasure in daily routines as well as big milestones. Eileen loves to involve Theo in baking and finds new parks and playgrounds to explore together. Tiffany loves to make up stories on the go and invent new games. Theo also loves aquariums (big and small), books, narrating car and train races he creates, and painting. He has brought so much love and joy into our lives that we are energized even though toddlers are exhausting!
The experience of being Theo’s parents has shown us that we have the love and capacity to welcome another child. Theo is a creative and cautious child who will make a caring and fun big brother. As parents, we strive to foster the interests of all family members, big and small. Children in our family are loved and respected, and our family culture adapts to include everyone’s needs and interests.
Should you decide that we are to be the parents of your child, you will become an important and honoured person in our family, regardless of whether you chose openness. If you want an open relationship, we would welcome that and would be interested in ongoing contact with you and with any members of your family you would like to include.
We wish you the very best,
Tiffany, Eileen & Theo
We would love to hear from you. You can learn more about us, or reach us through our social worker, Andrea Flanderkova. She can be reached at 1.866.582.3678 or 604.736.7613, ext. 4003 or by email at email@example.com.
"As parents, we strive to foster the interests of all family members, big and small. Children in our family are loved and respected, and our family culture adapts to include everyone’s needs and interests."